I like that this idea of courtly love revolves around staying within a Catholic religion. It shows how during a certain time period religion was something valued. These views on love and what love is are actually vaguely similar to what people think love means today (but are completely wrong about.) Its kind of funny because mostly women are into these types of literature which isnt surprising. It kind of explains why people think that certain aspects that come with falling in love "just happen," because thats what love is and it isnt.
The ideas that keeping secrets and jealously are ways to hold a relationship or to maintain love are associated with the idea of drama. I can understand why these things are found within literature because it keeps it interesting but it impacts the thoughts of people reading or watching.
Apparently blasphemy and anti-religious behavior will cause failure in love, and I find that comical. The values they had and the importance of religion are way different than today. There are people whos religion is a primary thing within their relationship but I feel like it isnt taken as seriously now as it was then.
In general I dont understand how rules were put on love, because there are no rules. Everyone is different.
I love that you said that there shouldn't be any rules when it comes to love, that couldn't be more true! Love isn't easily defined, and each type of love two people can have between them may not work for others. The structure of some relationships are definitely centered around their religion (for example), and that's great if it's something that works for their dynamic. But, if there were someone who's religion was the primary focus of their life, with someone who's views lean more towards agnostic/atheist, their ideals and perceptions of love may be different. To hell with these old rules, I say!
ReplyDeleteI was just saying in another blog post, that the ideas involving love do not seem mature to me. As in, the "rules" seem to be describing a very juvenile relationship, instead of two consenting adults seasoned in relationships. What that means in the bigger picture, I don't know, but it's interesting to note.
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree they there should"t be any rules to love! love is defined by the two people in the relationship and there are definitely a lot of things that may not work for another couple. I feel like these rules were made for people who are learning how to love and they are more like tips or guidance. I don"t think they should have been taken that seriously.
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